Life can be hard. Sometimes it’s all we can do to just get through the day with our self-esteem in tact.
If you’re anything like I was, there is one person in your life that makes everything just so much harder.
This person discourages you. They aren’t always kind to you. They make you feel small. They tell you you’re not good enough. Sometimes they even tell you you’re crazy.
If my best friend had a person like this in her life, I would help her do everything possible to get away from that negativity. I would tell her to tell that person to ‘F’-Off! Because negativity like that will only hold her back.
Do you have a person in your life that tries to demoralize you at every turn?
I did. And I decided to stop listening to her. It was time to tell her, my inner critic, to take a hike.
Yes, it’s true. The person that I allowed to abuse me and take up too much space in my mind with her negative messages was my own inner critic.
My own mind was the one holding me back and so I told her to “F”-Off.
I was the one getting in my own way; preventing myself from living the most kickass life possible.
Well no more.
The steps below are a good place to start if you need help kicking your inner critic to the curb.
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If you need help telling your inner critic to take a hike, begin by following these steps:
Recognize the difference between your inner voice and your inner critic.
Your inner voice is the gate-keeper to your soul; to your dreams. She only wants the best for you. Your inner critic on the other hand, is your inner mean girl. The one who is always discouraging you and making you feel small. These voices are not one in the same. Learn to tell the difference.
Realize your inner critic will not go quietly.
Your inner mean girl has been with you for a long time and she’s not going to leave easily. It will take some effort.
Start to notice every time your mood changes.
If you feel sad, discouraged, or depressed, more times than not it’s because your inner critic has been hard at work. Recognize what is happening.
Rewind your tape.
When you do notice your mood going from positive to negative, and it isn’t becasue of an outside influence, replay what the last thing you said to yourself was. It was probably something based on your inner critic’s fears and doubts. Something like, “I’ll never be able to do that.” “I’m not _____ enough.” “I wish I could do ______.” “What will everyone say?” “You might fail.”
Develop an arsenal.
The best tactic to combat this enemy is to stockpile affirmations. Keep an ongoing list of encouraging statements. When you become aware of the limiting beliefs your inner critic tells you, counteract the negative messages with positive ones.
The only way to live life to the fullest is if you tell your inner critic to “F” Off! You will never be able to follow your dreams and make the most of your one precious life if the mean girl inside your head keeps getting in your way.
Isn’t it time to stop letting her hold you back?
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